Telling People to Forgive is Gaslighting in Disguise : By Ruth Parchment

https://www.elephantjournal.com/2020/01/forgiveness-is-a-choice-fo-we-cause-more-harm-than-good-by-telling-people-to-find-forgiveness/?fbclid=IwAR1eF6fH-gZ0AbY553VvaQ9MYr38osvLUCV8Bi0vvG2J1Lju3K4Jifmvmsg

I absolutely understand forgiving the small stuff, but when some one in a caring or respected role,  knowingly, and continuously abuses, manipulates and degrades your self esteem and physical body for a life time, and can see no wrongdoing in their behaviours, the act of Forgiveness can seem a bazar and dangerous decision to make.