Say the Right Thing: 8 Go-To Phrases to Raise Happy Kids: These go-to phrases are pretty much all you need to keep in your pocket to have a happy, independent kid.

http://www.parents.com/parenting/better-parenting/positive/what-to-say-to-kids/

John and I with our 7 kids 15 years ago. Yes we have had our moments but any great relationship takes work.
We are still growing and now have 2 grandchildren.